When all of your exes get to happily move on in relationships that aren’t you and you get nobody for extended periods of time.

While you’re prideful in yourself to know that whatever relationship you get won’t feel as tainted as theirs because maybe they’re manipulative. The thing about it is that, I’ve tried being upfront, honest, detailed and everything to get someone with.

And I guess working on yourself and trying to improve aren’t exactly attractable qualities.

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    And I guess working on yourself and trying to improve aren’t exactly attractable qualities.

    They are if you are successful, but not everyone who works on themselves is successful. Some people are also attracted to problematic people instead of someone who would actually be a good partner.

    In my case, I hit a point where I decided that I was picking the bad partners and needed some time to figure out why. By not dating ot hooking up for a couple of years, I became more self aware and ended up attracting way more attention by just being comfortable with myself which led to being a better person because I no longer blamed others or myself. Understanding and changing for the better is better than blaming and not doing anything to change.

    That doesn’t mean someone is guaranteed to then suddenly find a partner and get on with relationships. It just increases the odds.