One of my new friends is/was a cop. Just found out about it. I genuinely believe ACAB, and this news has me conflicted because my new friend seems really cool and super nice. I don’t know him super well yet, though. He’s a big part of this new friend group and I don’t know how to process this and how to deal with the fact he’s a cop.
I don’t want to look past the fact he’s a cop, but I want to stay his friend and stay in this friend group.
Any advice for dealing with this shit?
I can’t talk to my therapist about it until Thursday.
Sounds familiar. Keeping things vague, but I know a US cop. Out and proud about voting for the convicted felon rather than the district attorney, not that he could possibly think of it that way.
His kids are grown and I’ve seen evidence they don’t share his views. At least one of those kids is a woman. I take solace in the fact that their votes cancelled his out, even if things have gone his way.
I wouldn’t say he’s a friend, but he’s definitely friend of a friend territory and I’ve “spoken” with him a few times. Carefully. It’s been almost pleasant. Even the ones with their heads on wrong can be personable. Until you get on their bad side.
Because of mutual friends, I can’t avoid him all the time, but if I can, I do.