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  • No, or rather, that doesn’t matter.

    I would say I didn’t have a good grasp on reality and what I wanted until my late twenties. Your perspective will continue to change, just as it has from when you were ten to now. Maybe your marriage will struggle with the changes (in both of you). So waiting is an option. But then again, I know people who fell in love at 15, married and are happily married 20 years later. Maybe that’s you maybe it isn’t. The internet doesn’t know.

    All you need to be aware of is that marrying isn’t just something you say, it also comes with legal complications. A divorce isn’t as simple as teen breakup.

    Good luck though!



  • I don’t really get it,

    Sticking with the snail mail analogy, what happens when two pen pals keep sending mail to each other from their homes without including return addresses in their envelopes? The postal service might not know who exactly is sending each piece of mail but, over time, they would know that Address A in Lower Manhattan, New York, keeps on getting one-way mail from the post office in 3630 East Tremont Avenue, the Bronx, New York; and Address B in the Bronx keeps on getting one-way mail from the post office in 350 Canal Street, Lower Manhattan.

    I mean, no, all they know is that they ALL users get one way mail all the time?

    The “over time” in “but, over time, they would know that…” does a lot of heavy lifting. Would they? How would they know that?

    Sure, if there were only two participants in the system, I would agree. But we have way more than 2 users on signal.








  • I’m more on mastodon and their filter system is so nice

    I made a filter for “idiot did a thing” and every time the news has another article about how some idiot whose name is on my list did something again, as they do, because that’s all they’ve been doing for 20 years, I no longer have to read it.

    But I still get the little “something was blocked, click here to read it” thing, so it’s very satisfying.

    I don’t block often, but I would expect it’s a similar upgrade.





  • I would say it’s like a strong appetite for food.

    Imagine you just ate, you pass a street vendor and the food looks and smells delicious. You have the time, the money to stop and get some street food. Maybe it’s bad for your health, but it’s worth it in the moment.

    I see so many men go to extreme lengths to chase women - sometimes even risking their careers or relationships just to get laid.

    That’s dumb, it’s a strong desire and it can make you do dumb stuff like buying 2-3x the street food amount you can eat, but it’s not irresistible and the people who do dumb stuff just haven’t learned restraint.

    Someone who cheats doesn’t cheat because they’re horny, they cheat because they never properly valued the relationship they’re in to begin with. Same for the career stuff, they probably got away with it so far, and they go too far like people go over the speed limit with their car. Whatever risk exists, they think it doesn’t apply to them or that situation.

    eventually, I’ll be able to feel even a fraction of that same pull.

    I don’t think it’s a thing you can train or learn, it’s too biological. And it’s not worth chasing that much. Staying with the food metaphor, some people love food so much, they travel, learn to cook, experiment, it’s a whole hobby. And others are fine with mostly eating the same food every day, use little spices and never learn even to cook good simple dishes like pasta with a decent sauce.

    If it’s a problem in your relationship because your partner doesn’t feel valued that way, solve it the same way you answer what to eat: go along with what they want, surprise them with a visit to a restaurant you know they like etc… But also talk and explain to them that you will probably not change that way and they have to accept that.




  • straight up not feasible

    It’s very feasible to create the law, collect the fine, and raise the price on energy sources or industrial process that require the cooling.

    It’s a formality, you could do it in an afternoon. Costs a bit of ink and a piece of paper.

    “But then it gets more expensive!” and “This might push corporations out of the city/country.” is the consequence the people / the government / the country have to have the balls to endure, if they want to stand by things like “having enough water” or “living on earth in the 22nd century”.

    If the free market is something you believe in, you should love this, because it makes water a more scarce resource and the market will be able to find another optimal solution to that new scarcity problem.