This is the first thing I thought of too, would be neat to shoot once, super impractical.

It’s a fiber supplement, helps stuff move along and kind of fends off hunger until lunch since I’m fasting (except for the protein powder) 18 hours every weekday.

Weekdays: 5g psyllium husk, 5g creatine, 30g whey protein, double Turkish coffee, 1 liter of water.

Weekends: 3 thick cut slices of bacon, small potato grated and fried into hash browns, 2 eggs sunny side up, pour over coffee, in addition to the weekday supplements.

My wife eats oatmeal or a French omelette during the week, which I make. And something more hearty on the weekend, depending on her workout schedule.

There are some of us who wake up early to work out and have breakfast with our significant others before work. You don’t have to be old to appreciate spending time together, or make room for it in your life.

My wife leaves for work at 7:30a, I’ve been up since 5:30a spending the morning with her. Sometimes those two hours are the highest quality time we’ll spend together all day, fewer distractions.

You sound reasonable, and I don’t have all the information, but maybe I can play devil’s advocate.

Suppose your friend is actually a good dad, and is using his time without his kids around to catch up with his friends, listen to what’s topical in your life, and then do something other than talk about his kids?

This is a non-rhetorical good faith question: should kids be the sole focus of their parent’s lives once they have them?

I agree that kids need to be the top priority once people have them, no question there. But aren’t parents allowed to have lives of their own as well?

I don’t have kids and I’m at the age where most of my friends have them. The folks I knew whose only focus was on their kids gradually phased out of the group. Many of those people ended up divorced unfortunately. The parents I see regularly spend most of their time on their kids, but also have hobbies and interests outside of just kid stuff.

People who have their own lives in addition to being good parents seem to be happier and more well rounded. It also makes connecting with them easier for people without kids. I’m up to date on their kids, go to birthdays, and occasionally babysit. We have kid friendly dinners at each other’s homes, go camping with kids, etc… But we also go out once in awhile without them, catch games, play golf.

I feel like that’s healthier.

I generally agree with you, with my one exception being The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, fantastic movie.

I guess it depends on what you consider passable.

It’s loud enough on 25% to disturb my neighbors, it’s clear and defined enough for me to watch normally and hear everything at 7%. There’s no observable delay, and the installation is clean enough to make my wife happy. It wasn’t cheap, but I wouldn’t consider it expensive.

Some films are meant to be watched in large formats with insane audio that just can’t be replicated at home. The Dune movies and Oppenheimer are a few recent examples I can think of that looked incredible in 70mm IMAX. I live in a major metro area and there are only 3 screens within 50 miles capable of showing 70mm properly. I choose to go out of my way to these theaters once or twice a year, if a great film is showing.

Short of films shot and shown in a true large format there’s no way you’ll find me in a theater.

I’ll watch content on small screens if I’m on a plane. Otherwise it’s my 80" living room TV with passable surround sound.

Maybe this question should also request the responder’s general location, because I imagine the situations vary substantially.

I’ve lived in California for most of my life, and we go on frequent drives between LA and SF, usually a few times a year.

In the 80’s and 90’s bugs would cover the front of our vehicles and the windshield would be difficult to see through even with wipers and washer fluid. We’d actually have to stop to manually scrape them off.

In the 00’s and 10’s we noticed that we’d get basically zero bugs on a long drive, and that sparked many conversations about California environmental law.

I just got back from a drive up the coast and I can happily say that we’re back to insane numbers of bug strikes on the highway. Just north of Ventura I drove through a cloud of large bugs that hit like rocks and instantly covered almost my entire windshield. This situation has been noticably turning around since COVID, which I think is a good thing

It’s a mixed bag.

Growing up was made difficult because school is so slow that I’d rather be getting into trouble than sitting in class. By the start of middle school I’d already read the entire high school honors reading list, I had to walk to the high school from my middle school in 7th grade to take math classes. I rarely had regular school work in high school, nearly all of my academic teachers designed a different curriculum for me, which was nice but probably mostly to keep me from acting up in class. I never studied or did a shred of homework, but got good grades.

Social interactions were tough, I’m not much of an empath, not that I don’t experience empathy but emotions just aren’t intuitive, actually they often are the opposite of what you’d expect to be helpful, especially among young people. I had to concentrate to read people’s faces and mannerisms to understand the emotional and social subtexts of most interactions. I self medicated with alcohol a lot in high school.

All of my academic classes in high school were honors, and my final 2 years were all AP, while lettering in 3 varsity sports (4 total, but you can only play 3 each academic year). It wasn’t until my second year in uni that I ran into a class for which I actually had to study (nuclear chemistry), and boy was that an awful surprise. A handful of classes were like this for me, most I just showed up 3 times and got a good grade: the first day of class so I wouldn’t get dropped, the midterm, and the final.

I read quickly, think systematically, and information just sticks in my head. It was very difficult to understand why this wasn’t how most people were. Everything I do I analyze for improvement, and remember to do it better the next time. My wife calls me a skill collector because people seem to think I’m super good at everything, but to me it’s just logical that if you’re going to take time do something you might as well do it as well as possible.

After uni things started getting easier. Being forced to closely analyze social interactions and systematically give the “right” reactions is extremely useful in professional life. I wear this mask in all my interactions with all but my closest friends. It’s a bit psychopathic, but I don’t do it to anyone’s detriment, it’s mostly to get along and fit in.

I’ve self selected for highly intelligent friends, and I’m exhilarated to meet new people who can communicate with the kind of bandwidth that our brains run at, if that makes sense. I’m still close with most of my friends from high school, who have had varying levels of success, but I still have to be guarded when it comes to activities or conversation to make sure I don’t stick out too much.

In general I have a very pessimistic view of people and the world. The average person isn’t very sharp, and half of all people are dumber than that. However many smart people do evil things, most of the time for no reason at all. It’s exhausting to keep up with it all, so I just focus on my path and my family, and do what I can to directly improve my community.

It would be nice to fit in a little easier, but I wouldn’t trade my experience for anything else.

I was influenced greatly by Robert Axelrod’s short essay about the Prisoner’s Dilemma titled “The Prisoner’s Dilemma Computer Tournaments and the Evolution of Cooperation” (link PDF warning)

tl;dr The essay explores an iterative game of Prisoner’s Dilemma, and demonstrates how cooperation can emerge from a group of self interested participants. It has implications for the statistical emergence of morality, and even remarks on politics.

Morning: Work out, shower, coffee, protein shake, make breakfast for my wife, hop on the laptop.

Night: Cook dinner, kiss my wife when she gets home. Hit a few golf balls on the simulator. Watch an episode from an anime series if there’s something new. Maybe have a cocktail with the neighbor.

Shower, scroll for about 30 minutes, sleep.

I feel very lucky, and try not to take each day for granted.

it is the unluckiest day of the year

Today is the day that my local area shut down for COVID in 2020. I live near the ocean, the beach was closed, the golf courses were closed, the stores had cops out front stopping looting. It was wild.

I’m guessing that search would turn up results for any instance LW is federated with? If not that would be disappointing!

There will be a detracted argument

Probably meant protracted

Great Bush recession

I’ve literally never heard it called that, is this a non-US term? I’ve heard “great financial crisis”, “great recession”, or “housing crash” before.

That’s even more bizarre; how does one hide a gun in their shoe??

Ankle holster probably.

Also, almost no pistol designed in the last 60 years will discharge when simply dropped on the ground (Sig P320 may be the exception here). I’m pretty sure this guy shot himself, and blamed it on an AD. What a moron.

My #1 is Mauviel, made in France, but they are very costly.

DeBuyer comes in as a very close second, especially considering their price point relative to Mauviel.

The third one is definitely rooted in coastal Southern California, but has tinges of other accents. As you pointed out, this accent could be from anywhere in the US as the sound has propogated via popular media.

As a native Los Angelino it sounds to me like a guy in Northern California or maybe PNW who spent a lot of time on the east coast.

It’s different enough from the beachy LA or Orange County sound for me to pick out that there’s some other influence there.

I’m following for responses here, great questions!

I don’t know much about the security of running those services relative to each other, but I have some practical experience.

I ran sshd for decades, and pushed a local socks tunnel through it to emulate VPN. I initially chose this route because it worked on all desktop OS and Android without needing to figure out all of the client VPN software, and I already had SSH everywhere.

In the last couple of years Wireguard became natively available on my network equipment (UniFi Ubiquiti) so I moved all of my client devices over and closed down the external SSH port. I connect to it using IP, but use Syncthing to keep my host IP updated in case it changes, which has happened exactly once in the last 7 years (I used this mechanism when I was running ssh as well). I’ve been very happy.

Performance relative to socks over SSH is better. Client resource usage is lower (mainly looking at battery life), so much so that all my client devices (even mobile phones) run Wireguard always turned on. Fewer networks block Wireguard than SSH (I used to have to run ssh over DNS ports with other trickery to get around hotel and airplane wifi restrictions).

I now carry a small wifi router in my travel kit that bridges/clones connections to public wifi and runs Wireguard natively so every device I care about can just jump on that while I’m traveling. I only have to connect it to public wifi and no longer have to mess with the rest of my devices. I can even run Chromecast and stream media from my home while connected to a hotel TV. It’s all very seamless.