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  • They fenced my son’s school this summer. Previously it was only the playground and field that was fenced. New fence is 4 ft high, no gates, just gaps at walk ways.

    At first I was unhappy about it, feeling that it cut the school off from the community. But then my son and I arrived early one day and had his soccer ball, we were able to really play on a lawn that would have been too small without a fence. So I can see that the fence creates more usable space for the school. And I’ve come around.




  • Thanks for the feedback, but I don’t find it very useful. I did not say that the mother voted with the goal of supporting transphobic policies, I said something stronger.

    It is my view that a person cannot love a trans person unconditionally AND support transphobic politicians. Ie it doesn’t matter why the mother supports the politician.

    If you love somebody you will not support politicians that want to unfairly discriminate against them. Even if the politicians have better policies in other areas.

    Families need to understand one another and not devolve into a political shitshow

    What makes you think anyone is misunderstanding their family here?

    OP and everyone else is at fault for the drama

    Obviously the family is dysfunctional, that’s what this post is about. I don’t think it’s particularly useful to try to apportion blame from where we are. Could OP have more effectively lobbied her parents not to support transphobic politicians? Probably, but we don’t know. Is OP trying to emotionally manipulate her mother? Maybe, we don’t know. My comment was advice on how OP can end her relationship firmly, while leaving the door open to reconciliation down the road.


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    3 months ago

    I wouldn’t be a cis-het-white-man if I didn’t feel entitled to weigh in: I think you should send a handwritten note that says something like:

    I will always have room in my life for a mother who loves me unconditionally, but a mother like that would not support politicians with transphobic policies. I do have love for you, but the choices you’ve made break my heart, and it’s not healthy for me to have that sort of negativity in my life.

    When I’m lonely, I’ll try to focus on the good times we had together, and not harbor bitterness. I forgive myself for not being the child you imagined. I hope you can do the same.

    Make sure to sign it with “Love”

    You could also list some of the positive memories you’re going to try to focus on. You could ask your sister to help you come up with a list. You don’t need to share the whole letter with her just say that you’re trying to come up with a list of happy memories for when you’re feeling down. Maybe that should be a conversation while you do something else together so you’re not just staring at each other at the kitchen table while trying to think. For me that that something else would be a game of pool, for others it might be cooking or jogging or gardening or walking through an art gallery/museum.

    If anybody has any feedback for me that would help me better understand OPs situation I’d love to hear it.


  • I’d probably start designing and building a rolling ball clock/ sculpture, then hit some sort of obstacle and switch to making a self recirculating eddy current tube, get frustrated and try to design and build an electronically commutated counter rotating propeller driver, get frustrated and try to build a garage sized 3d printer, get frustrated and try to build a delayed action door closer get frustrated and try to build a co-planar compound cycloidal reducer, get frustrated and then forget my wife’s anniversary until 4pm the day before.







  • I understand your anger and agree that anti-vaxxers are stupid. I believe public health education should be part of the school system.

    I also agree that it’s responsible for a society to impose reasonable restrictions on members that endanger it.

    I think people do have an ethical obligation to take reasonable precautions avoid potentially exposing others to pathogens. Vaccination is an example of reasonable precaution. People have the right to bodily autonomy, do not vaccinate them against their wishes.

    I do not support the firing of workers for refusing vaccinations if they can do their job remotely. People shouldn’t have to decide between their religious beliefs and employment if their employment doesn’t bring them into contact with others. (Imo anti-vaxx is essentially a religion, this may say more about my beliefs regarding religion than about anti-vaxx sentiment).

    By all means exclude the unvaccinated from places where they can be reasonably understood to endanger the public, or others that have a similar right to be there.