I’m reminded of a bit of advice I saw once. If they like you, you’ll know. If they don’t, you’ll feel confused.
This sounds like a confusing situation, which would mean he’s not really into you.
I’d suggest being open and honest. Tell him you’re interested romantically, and/or ask him on a date. Like literally, ask him out on a date – don’t call it a hang-out or a get-together, a date. Use clear language, don’t equivocate.
What do the kids call that again? Define the relationship? DTR? I think that’s what I’m suggesting.
If he keeps sending mixed signals after that, I’d give up on him.
But I know that’s all easier said than done. I used to struggle with this a lot, and some friendships definitely got ruined. But I think a lot of that was due to me not processing rejection in healthy ways.
An egg?
I try to channel all these lessons I picked up in therapy like “everyone is trying their best” and “we’re all just billiard balls”