Regarding the former: I’m autistic and have a lot of experiences telling me that I should hide parts of myself from others to be acceptable. It doesn’t work. It’s better for one-off social interactions, and I should rein in my info-dumping in some scenarios, but it’s easier to make better friends if I just share myself with others.
What do you say in lef of that?
I had a beautiful moment related to the word “bellend,” and now I love it.
I was one of two native English speakers in a German class in Germany, and we’d been together 20 hours/week for a few months, so the teacher and students knew each other pretty well. The other native English speaker was blatantly on his phone one day, which was his choice in an adult education class, but it’s disrespectful. The teacher going through gerunds with us (-ing in English, but in German, it’s -end), and after trying to get his attention for a few moments, just shouted, “Mickey, weißt du was “bellend” bedeutet?” (“Mickey, do you know what “barking” means?”) Mickey froze for a second, then told the teacher he was sorry and she was right.
The teacher (who did not speak good enough English to have done it intentionally) was completely caught off guard and I suddenly put it together and nearly lost my shit, but Mickey didn’t know we were doing gerunds and I wasn’t about to explain the meaning of bellend to everyone in the class, so I experienced this perfect crossover of language alone.
Almost none of these are old movies
Zangendeutsch is killing me though. I’m a native English speaker living in Germany and it’s difficult not to internalize fake internet German
Two days after breaking up, I found out that my ex had lied to me about everything about himself, and had gotten out of prison for beating his mother to death shortly before we met. I met him because he had been a canvasser with a friend of mine (also concerning, tbh), and he just fit right into her friend group, and nobody had any information about his life before that. Once we started comparing stories after we found out, it all clicked into place.
Even worse, he killed his mom after she tried to give him some tough love (it sounded like normal, healthy parenting from the reports) about drinking too much and I broke up with him for the same reason. I was certain he was going to kill me for a while there, but that’s no longer a worry because I live in another country and he can’t get a passport.
You’ve heard of the double down, but what about the duodecuple down?
I can’t imagine feeling comfortable saying something like this, especially on fucking tv
No worries either way, asking for a source is always a good idea :)
There are secret police here as well
In that case, I wasn’t interested and just felt immense pity at the situation, so I completely ignored it and talked to another coworker about our SOs at the group lunch table with him.
I’ve definitely noticed it on job interviews I’ve held and first dates/relationship milestones. In the former, I just ignore it, and in the latter, I do keep it in mind.
I have to shower after I have something like a job interview though, because it’s not a pleasant smell.
To be clear, I can’t differentiate between fear, anxiety, stress, and stimulants, except for intensity. It might be any of those if it smells a little like a battery. The first time I noticed it on someone else, it was someone with a crush on me who had to spend all day with me, so not exactly fear, but nerves.
A sudden change in BO can indicate all sorts of things though, from Parkinson’s to diabetic shock to sepsis, so you might want to let her know.
A lot of these are skills that people can learn, but they’re not something that most people care to learn. I can only recommend this one though
I can smell fear. I always thought that was normal, because it’s used idiomatically, but the first time I said something in a group of people, they looked at me like an alien. When someone’s anxious, their sweat smells more metallic to me, like amphetamine/coke sweat (which makes sense).
That sounds really inconvenient, I’m sorry. I can dislocate certain joints at will (fingers, shoulders, knees, and hips), but it doesn’t just happen, luckily. I do wonder how much worse it will get as I get older, but I haven’t been able to find much on mild cases in later years.
I’ve got mild EDS and so far (thirties), it’s just helpful (as long as you stay active and maintain good core muscles). Extreme EDS can result in your skin sloughing off or all of your joints dislocating in your sleep, so it’s not something to ignore, but if the only symptom is your thumb touching your wrist, you might just be lucky.
I’m awkward and conventionally attractive, so online dating was better for me, because it allows me to make a connection with someone while I have time to think about my words.
Until I read your answer, I was picturing a kiosk selling frozen bananas with a countertop (a diner would be a countertop restaurant, in this naming convention). My only excuse is that I just woke up
The most infuriating part about it is I know that if I rant about how terrible bbt is, it will only cement me as Sheldon in their minds.