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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • but I’m a stickler for enthusiasm at all stages. I have standards about consent that should be normal for everyone, everywhere, always, and the fact that they aren’t is really fucked up.

    FTFY. It feels weird to thank you for something that really should be the norm, but it’s really nice to see it written out clearly for everyone to see.

    Before anyone starts complaining about their poor kinks that they just can’t help: I’m into CNC and TPE, and they are both incomparably better experiences for everyone involved when everyone continuously enthusiastically consents. You (may) just need to add a layer of obfuscation, depending on the scene, but that’s easily managed through the traffic light system or safe words/signs.


  • An anonymous internet allows Nazis to connect with each other without fear of social or legal consequences, thereby raising their confidence in/dedication to their ideology.

    It’s certainly not on a par, but the same thing happens with weird kinks- I have one I probably would have forgotten about if it weren’t something that I then found online. Instead, because I saw that it wasn’t just me, I had the confidence to tell partners about it. And it was only because I found queer online communities that I was able to explore my gender identity and sexuality in the same way.

    I absolutely support an open and anonymous internet, I just don’t know if there’s a way to stamp out bigotry and fascism while having one.

    Or rather, I know how to do it, I just don’t know if we can. The answer is absolute solidarity among non bigots against anonymous bigots: cancel your contracts with platforms that host fascists or bigots, tell them and everyone else why, and get others to do the same.

    Of course, at this point there are enough of them to have their own economy, so it’s not going to work now. This is more like the wound care to prevent a recurrence of the infection, instead of the infection treatment itself.







  • Yeah, most people have to occasionally hurt others, though I’m not sure how they feel about it.

    I believe that some people cannot coexist with others without being hurt (eg. imprisoned), but I don’t relish the thought, especially not in the context of war. If I could choose, I’d institute a gift-based Potlach system (but I have no real enforcement mechanism without violence, so…).

    To be clear, I’m not being judgmental about this, I don’t think anyone should be judged for their thoughts, I just don’t have those thoughts.


  • Hey, this is also not a personal attack. I don’t know if I’m the outlier here or not, but I figured I’d mention it and others can weigh in.

    I don’t get the urge to hurt people, not that I don’t hurt people, but it’s unintentional or uncomfortable for me. I get the urge to prove people wrong, but I only feel dread when I need to hurt people (not harm them, but I’m a teacher, so I have to have tough conversations with students sometimes).

    If you get the urge to hurt people, vote this comment down, if you don’t, vote it up.