This has really made me lose faith in a defederated system like this.

@Anyone: please let me know if I’m wrong about these and if there’s a solution, but as far as I can see:

• I can’t export my account (most importantly all the posts and comments I’ve saved).
• It’s difficult to find where a server is based.
• Some instances seem to be solo hobby projects. I don’t want to pick another instance that is at risk of being killed.

Talk radio station. Starts at low volume and builds up slowly. Calm voices are the most relaxed sound to wake up to. Tried all sorts of other sounds and they’re all too abrasive to wake up to.

This feels like homework.

AskLemmy…if you don’t ask in the post, then you will be asked in the comments.

You’re in the picture. You are seen.

It’s a strength check. It takes the might of Thor to squeeze the plug enough, in a tight space, at an odd angle, behind the computer.

If you’re looking for a “life hack” to make any exercise instantly enjoyable, then that’s really not going to happen.

But you sound like you’re motivated to start exercising so that’s great. You can add this in layers to make this genuinely enjoyable:

1. find something you like (for me: weight lifting and squash are fun. Running and swimming are hell)

2. Decide on a fixed time (for me: 10pm every day is designated for exercise)

3. Make it as simple as possible and remove as many barriers as possible (for me: I don’t sit to watch TV or play video games close to exercise time, otherwise I know I’m not going to get up again. I put on exercise clothes when I get home from work so I’m already ready when the time comes).

4. Add something else that’s really enjoyable (For me: I have a TV series that I only watch when I’m in the gym. So if I want to find out what happens next, I’ll have to go to the gym tomorrow.)

5. Make this routine (once you’re habituated to doing this regularly, then it stops taking will power to force yourself and is just embedded in your routine)

6. Forgive yourself for missing sessions (any time you miss a session, it doesn’t matter, you’ll start making progress again any time you start exercising again)

7. Make it social (some people love this and you can do exercise with someone. I personally hate that and I love the meditative solitude of exercise time)

This is not a question for Lemmy.

Could be anything from dry eyes to glaucoma. Get it checked.

The medical community has long since moved on from the cardiovascular definition of death.

UpToDate.com is about the only source I can be bothered mustering up for an internet disagreement at this time of night:

Death is an irreversible, biologic event that consists of permanent cessation of the critical functions of the organism as a whole [1]. This concept allows for survival of tissues in isolation, but it requires the loss of integrated function of various organ systems. Death of the brain therefore qualifies as death, as the brain is essential for integrating critical functions of the body. The equivalence of brain death with death is largely, although not universally, accepted [2,3]. Brain death implies the permanent absence of cerebral and brainstem functions.

Also this video seems to explain what I’m trying to say, although I’m not going to watch the whole thing at this hour and I only skimmed through it: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5IhxRSaJ74E

Not having a heartbeat and not breathing doesn’t mean you’re dead. Intensive care departments are literally full of people with medically paralysed breathing muscles (i.e. not breathing) on ventilation machines. People go onto heart/lung bypass machines everyday to have heart surgery and their heart is stopped. You just need to keep oxygenated blood going around, keeping those tissues alive till you get the heart and breathing back online (this is what CPR is trying to do).

When the brain stem is dead tissue, then you’re truly dead (but even then you can be kept “alive” artificially if you’re already on a ventilation machine in a suitable intensive care).

Is that why I can’t seem to find it on my laptop? Skill issue?

If you’re genuinely interested, then there are people studying and talking about this (beyond the expertise of Lemmy). There’s a fantastic podcast I listen to that talks in detail and there author has written a book about how minds change. Here’s a specific episode (out of many) that is relevant, but I would really recommend listening to all:

https://youarenotsosmart.com/2022/05/01/yanss-231-why-we-often-cant-choose-what-we-believe-thanks-to-the-fact-that-certainty-is-a-feeling-and-not-a-conclusion/

Britain looked at this and concluded: Brexit

Britain looked at this and concluded: “make it a class B drug instead of class C”

I’ve seen a lot of individuals like this in my life… “I don’t want to play, so the game is over”. No dude, you’re welcome to not participate, but you’re not the life of this group.

I was late to the party. The only acronym I ever used was SC2.

This is about the best answer that can be expected for such a vague plea for help.

I’ve done the video game addiction thing myself. Path of Exile…the game was good. Using it for unhealthy coping was not good.

Basically I would agree. The only thing you can change is yourself. Work on yourself. Dodge the second arrow.

It’s going to be served by a white faced clown holding a red balloon.

Your parenting mojo

But anything that helps you understand your brain and personal issues better will also help with parenting. So also try:

The Happiness Lab

Hidden Brain

School of Life (YouTube channel)

People online tend to recommend therapy to everyone,and I’m sure therapy is great if you can access it. But you can read, listen, watch, learn and improve through self reflection…and heal wounds you never knew about.

The thing I’m really missing is finding a good dad group or parent group to join. I would love some peer support.

I’m good with my parents. They have their normal human flaws, which I accept happily.

Are you a parent yourself? It’s really difficult. You can’t help but bring a lot of baggage. There’s a podcast I lesten to, to improve parenting that runs a workshop called “taming your triggers”. Having children exposes a lot of wounds and personal baggage. It’s really difficult to recognise and address those on yourself as a parent. Your description of expectations from a parent are so idealised, I would argue that there are very few individuals in the world who are actually successful in being that good and selfless.

This is interesting if you’ve got an hour to watch a philosophy video(link goes directly to 53min if you just want to watch a few minutes).