Mine are teens now, here are a few pointers:

Let them help with the dishes/garbage/sweeping. I know they’ll make a bigger mess now, but in a few years they take well to chores.

When they start asking questions, always treat them with respect like they’re a smart person who’s missing a chunk of knowledge.

How you respond to falls and failures shapes their lives. When they fall, ask if they need help up. If they ask if it’s okay, say it’s going to be okay. When they mess up, ask if they can help you clean up without going into blame, other than discussing how to avoid that in the future.

Imagine if a great artist had some notebook sketches, and his son finger-painted all over them and then tried to sell them.

If you are and you admit it, you’ll get more grace from intelligent people. Sometimes.

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I once was taking a nice old man to the hospital, when he stopped breathing. I gave him a second and tried to rouse him, and he was pretty stubborn about it, but he still had a weak pulse. I called to my partner.

“Hey, how close are we to the hospital?”

“About 5 minutes, why?”

“Well, he’s not breathing. So if you hit any traffic, hit the lights, will you?”

I bagged him for about 3-4 minutes. Traffic was light, and we were making pretty good time, so we decided not to freak anybody out. The guy came to, and looked confused.

“What happened,” he asked.

“You stopped breathing, so I was breathing for you.”

“Oh. Thank you.”

“You are very welcome.”

He’s still the only person who ever said thank you when I tried to save their life.

86.9% of all statistics are made up on the spot.

This won’t help your mom, she won’t change her mind and will try to drag the argument or will just attack until everything is destroyed. But here’s a clear rebuttal of the idea.

The failure of demanding everyone showing worth is determining what is worth and who gets to define and assign it. Every petty warlord believes they are the one to decide… and oh gee, amazing how they have the most worth.

If you tell your mom you will only accept her argument if she accepts you have more worth than her - and demonstrates it to you every day - it will probably make her go no contact until she needs you again for emotional affirmation.

Depression is real, I don’t have it but it’s real and I have friends that deal with it as part of their lives. It sounds like getting out of your mom’s sewer might help, but you might need medication as well.

Santlantis

It ain’t honest work, but it’s much.

Our Onion is the OC for all my satirical news articles. Little things like that are the seeds of a community.

I feel like you have the ethical upper hand, keep doing what you’re doing.

Not only can you say it, you can get temperate responses and arguments on the subject and not the person. Sure, we have to deal with some absolutists like on .mil, but after a few weeks of blocking the bad actors, this is a really refreshing environment.

Edit: and to OP on .ml, that wasn’t against you. Be sure to search around for areas that interest you, it can be sparse but there are some real gems here.

I’ve started making claim email chains with the state ombudsman cc’d in the first email. Saves so much time.

That’s correct. Everyone here making six figures will have some form of asset they could cash in if the chips came down. I sometimes feel underwater, but if I made painful cuts, I could survive. Real Americans are living day to day knowing if things get bad, they might have to sell more blood.

Every drop of water makes the river, don’t forget you’re a part of the world, and you’re important, even if it doesn’t always feel that way.

This is a charged issue, people aren’t downvoting you so much as expressing anger at what’s happening. Good use of nottheonion.

If Lemmy could up its porn game, reddit would just be bots saying catchy things to each other.

When I click on your name, I see you are here to argue.

It’s their second trip to the buffet, they deserve what they asked for.

I met Captain Crunch around 2012, really nice and still insanely curious about phone systems.