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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Even if you are completely correct and this person conspired against you; holding onto this is not great for your mental health.

    The best thing for you is to acknowledge that you were hurt by this and accept that. Then move on, what they did was about them and not you.

    From your text, it could be that they were just selfish and you were collateral damage. My advice stands, give yourself the freedom to move on.


  • As a father of three boys. This is enforced far more by the mother’s of girls than anyone else.

    My oldest made friends almost exclusively with girls before he was five. Without fail mother’s would move their girls away and toward other girls. This happened in a few situations, both structured and unstructured environments.

    When it was dad’s with daughters, it was only about 1/4 of the time, and mums or dad’s with sons never did.

    I have seen it the other way also, where boys were steered to other boys, but it was far less often.

    I used to go to a men’s only yoga class, I was far more comfortable there than in a mixed class. The class was discontinued, not because of lack of interest… but because the instructor got pregnant, it never restarted. She was a great instructor very professional and targeted the exercises to men’s problem areas.

    Men’s only spaces are important, as much as women’s spaces. Men’s mental health is often overlooked, and men’s spaces are an easy way for men to vent about shit that is bothering them.

    Also “our current time” is a little strange, history it’s full of segregated spaces, even of just by social convention. Our current time is far more accepting of mixing than a lot of history.