

I’m going to go against the grain and suggest finding people with like-minded life situations.
I had a friend who has a divorce at age 40. I did all I could as a friend, provide sympathy, check in. But he was extremely miserable, or just downright offensive.
Dating is hard at that age - I get it. I don’t need to hear his opinion about why women of today aren’t what he wants in every conversation.
I also cannot play his wingman. No, I’m not going to “pretend” to flirt with girls at a bar with him when I’m married.
But it became offensive. Like my niece turned into an adult and he asked: “Is she looking for a man?” Dude, you’re twenty years older. WTF.
Joke or not, as a married man, that’s not where I am in life. And yeah, I absolutely stopped hanging out with him because this version of him is hard to deal with.
You will.
We’re a gateway drug.