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Cake day: January 26th, 2025

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  • Just went to the ER last week and I was there for 3 hours before I got seen. It wasn’t life threatening. Then, I was just sitting in the back for 8 hours. Nurse saw me twice. No doctor. I got checked, was given Tylenol and said I was “fine”.

    I’m glad I didn’t crash out. Then I scheduled an appointment with my PRIVATE doctor and could get one in 9 weeks.

    I pay $1100 a month for health insurance for me and my family.

    I haven’t got the bill for ambulance yet or the hospital. But my last ambulance ride was $2800, which insurance was willing to pay 75% of it.




  • “I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Shit sucks. And my heart goes to you.”

    You can say that to her. But I’m saying that to you too.

    I grew up in a household that told me to “walk it off”. At funerals, just a bunch of stiff lips. But when my wife’s cat died, I was ready to be like you. But my heart broke and I cried my ass off.

    So how do you support them? Let everyone grieve. Take care of each other. Ask each other if they need anything. Check in with each other if you are ready for a walk, going out to eat, doing something “a bit” different to recover. Don’t try to “get back to normalcy”, because there’s no such thing. Your life changed. This is the new normal. And after all this, you both will become a little closer and a little stronger.

    I lost 3 cats in ten years. Toxic masculinity or whatever, shit is always hard. I put on a face to make sure my wife and kids are taken care of first, of course. But I’m grieving too and they take care of me. Let them.