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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • I grew up with a mom that was NEVER wrong.

    If I pointed out she was wrong, there was always an excuse. “Well, YOU should have said this, or you made me do that.”

    And because of her need to look infallible all the time, I learned to hide mistakes, blame others, and never let anyone know you aren’t perfect.

    And so, when I first had kids, I instinctively continued to do as I was taught. Once day I realized what I was doing and thought about how it made me feel when I was a kid, and decided I didn’t want to do the same thing to them.

    It wasn’t “as easy as that” and there were many times I caught myself doing it, but when I did, I apologized and admitted my mistake.

    I’d rather they learn how to accept responsibility for their actions than learn how to place blame on others.












  • You are right on track.

    Every generation in the past hundred years has lived in a COMPLETELY different world than their parents.

    Right now, your finding your place in the world, and that’s not easy.

    Forgive the video game analogy if that’s not your cup of tea, but: You’ve just finished the tutorial (childhood) and there’s a lot more grinding to do before you should start comparing yourself to the end-game builds.






  • I’m going back to the first comment I typed this morning.

    Context is important.

    If my child is rooting around in the cleaners under the sink, I will of course intervene because in that situation I am responsible for teaching them that it’s harmful and that they should not drink it.

    If some rando posts in the Internet “I’ve been drinking bleach every day for 20 years, and I’m going to do it again right now.” Who am I to tell him that he shouldn’t do something that’s been working for him for 20 years? Clearly it’s none of my business.

    If some rando posts “If I drink bleach will it cure my COVID?” I will tell them it’s a very bad idea, because they asked for information about it, and that’s what I know.

    It’s all about CONTEXT.