Nah, it’s that I would love to be able to use it as a radiator like you suggested, but I have a sensory problem with exposing my feet like that. It’s really annoying actually, because I have some chronic conditions that make me more heat sensitive now, and even though I know it would help a ton, I still can’t stand the feeling of my feet being exposed.
So, same problem, but sadly can’t use your solution.
Yes, and I have definitely put on tearjerker movies while in that state for the sake of letting it out.
But then the monsters might eat my foot!
Really though: I have a visceral aversion to having my feet exposed like that. If I’m lying down or even sitting on the couch, my feet must be covered. I could have no other blankets, except on my feet.
Shutting down third-party apps through unreasonable API pricing with extremely little notice, then actively lying about their conversations with Apollo’s developer about it even though he had recordings of the calls.
I think there was even more BS at that time that made it against my personal values to stay, but those were the nails in the coffin for me.
It was hard. I spent over ten years on reddit, and I’d been active in some meetup groups over the years, so a lot of my real-life friends came from there. It felt like ending a part of my identity.
But hearing what kinds of nonsense they’ve continued to pull, I know I made the right decision and I’m glad I moved.
There are lots of app options for Lemmy. If you want an excuse to break the habit, EOL of an app is a great reason. But if not, try something else. That post is about 3 years old but it was the first I found and I didn’t feel like digging for more, lol.
Originally they sold tramadol as “not an opioid” (and not addictive) but then they backtracked on that, so yeah, it is. But most people mentally classify it differently.
Every time I’ve had other opioids, they literally have no effect on me, including not reducing my pain. My lay understanding is that tramadol gets metabolized into a different kind of opioid while in your body, and I suspect something about that process allows it to work for me while others don’t.
And in general I seem to have a lot of abnormal responses to medications, including some paradoxical effects (like Ambien keeps me awake, or Claritin-D—the non-drowsy one—puts me to sleep).
It’s obviously different for different people but yeah, for me it’s just the difference of “in pain and miserable” vs “tolerating pain and normal.” And this is from someone with a standing prescription for tramadol, the only opioid that actually works for me. I only have to take it a couple times a year now, thankfully. Gabapentin has never actually helped with my pain though.
Ha, someone else said Koyaanisqatsi, to which I countered Baraka. Yours was the next response down.
I’ve seen Baraka many times but only watched Samsara once, I believe. Though we’re supposed to have neighbors over to watch it soon. Thanks for the reminder!
It’s more of a documentary with no narration. I replied this above, but I’d recommend Baraka instead. Baraka offers incredible visuals of humanity—the good and the bad—with a stunning soundtrack.
I’d definitely recommend Baraka over Koyaanitsqatsi. Baraka’s my partner’s favorite movie and I’ve watched it at least five times. After the last time he pulled up Koyaanitsqatsi, and I see where he was trying to go with it, but I don’t think he was there yet. However, I think he nailed it with Baraka.
If it’s something I enjoy doing like making art? No.
If it’s something I just want the outcome of, like building furniture? Yes.
Which I realized is basically the difference in whether I would rather make something myself or buy it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
So many, but several of my absolute favorites all happened in the same 2-day window years ago. I took a semester off college and traveled around the US. I rode the Empire Builder train from Chicago to Seattle, a 2-day trip.
The first was a deaf man who took that trip multiple times a year. He knew the train didn’t have enough outlets for everyone, so he brought a power strip to share with everyone and he’d monitor devices and return them when they were full battery. He and I ‘talked’ for quite a while by passing notes on his phone back and forth.
The next is the one that came to mind first for this question. I was traveling on a budget, and I have a low appetite any way, so I bought snack bars and things for the train so I could save money over the train’s food. At one point, a woman offered me a granola bar out of the blue and I turned her down but didn’t think much of it.
Half a day later, she and her partner were preparing to get off at the next stop. Her partner walked up to me and said, and I quote, “Now I know it’s none of my damn business, but do you have supple money?” It took me a moment to process what he was asking, and I told him I did. He insisted again. I ultimately didn’t take any from him, but what I realized was that the two of them had been watching this young woman, traveling alone, never getting up to go buy food for almost two days straight. They thought I wasn’t eating and offered me food and money. Total strangers. It makes me tear up thinking about them and their kindness.
The last was a young man, closer to my age who got on the train with a full on double bass. He was heading out west with plans to busk his way down the coast. He and I chatted for the last couple hours of the trip, sharing music from his MP3 player. It was an enjoyable bond that lasted only for the moment, as we didn’t exchange contact info or have any other way to connect again.
I still think about those people, and I’ll always remember that trip as one of my favorites because of those strangers.
The book The Sociopath Next Door asserts that up to 4% of people are sociopaths, defined as people who lack empathy and conscience. Many sociopaths end up being celebrities, politicians, or CEOs, as they seek fame/power/money and don’t have empathy for others acting as an internal ethical conscience; not all end up violent.
Your father and brother, and possibly even mother fall on this scale. They are just on the extreme violent side of it.
So how many households are like yours? I’d assert, based on that book, it’s a max of 4%. But more likely it’s significantly lower than that since yours is on the extreme side.
The majority of people are not like them.
Hank Green recently did a good video on this!
This list reminds me of the “reasons my wife cried” list, lol.
But seriously I love this list and think it’s great to find joy in the small things like this. And if you don’t/can’t, it’s ok to seek out help for your mental health.
I was firmly against them but an opportunity showed itself early in my career and figured I could stick it out for 2 years to get a big name on my resume… and somehow it’s been ten years now. But it’s a company with a genuinely good culture and my career has grown constantly over those 10 years, so I’ve been happy. TBF, my employer before this was extremely toxic so in comparison it’s been amazing.
Just curious, do you mean specifically the job as in role, or do you think this about going back to a company as a whole?
I can name easily a dozen, maybe two dozen people at my company I personally know who left then came back, although generally to a different role. And I’ve seen most of them get promoted after coming back, even to high roles like Director or VP. I don’t know if that’s just because of a good company culture or if it’s because it’s a larger business (2-2.5k corporate employees).
My dad has always been on the right and he’s a Trump voter, but he’s mostly avoided going full MAGA-proud. We have always had a tense relationship when it comes to politics and at times had very little personal relationship. Now we just avoid political discussions or keep them very high level, and it’s manageable. I talk to him a lot less than I would if he didn’t have those views. His health is declining significantly at this point so I have decided it’s not worth trying to change his mind.
My mom is still with him and she’s leftist and we talk all the time.
My dad’s two sisters are deep into MAGA (they were proud attendees of Trump’s first inauguration). They’ve been far-right fundamentalist Christians most, if not all, of my life, so I already had a strained relationship with them before 2016. I haven’t even tried in over a decade now. I was recently diagnosed with a chronic disease that one of them also has and I kept thinking about reaching out but ultimately decided I don’t even want her in my life for that so I haven’t bothered.
My company has started using a survival metaphor of air/water/food.
It works because it recognizes that you need all three to survive and you have different time scales on which you can survive without them.
We will choose not to drink water sometimes to make sure we can eat some food. But we will die if we only consume food.
I’m on the product side and trying to buy my teams as much capacity to pay off some of our wayyyy overdue tech debt, and this metaphor has made it easier to convey where we are to my higher ups.
I formed my own way of typing before learning proper form. I touch type, but I swap which hand types the middle of the keyboard based on the word I’m typing and the letters around it. It’s not “proper,” but it works for me. I’m not the fastest typist, but I’m above average.
I also usually type on my phone screen without looking at the keyboard. Does that count as touch typing? Lol. I just took two typing speed tests on my phone and got 49–54 WPM.