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Cake day: December 28th, 2023

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  • My mother was a meth addict who ruined the relationship we had, and I ended up moving out not long after after finding a shake and bake lab in the basement, which led to her becoming homeless. I loved my mother, but I did not like her really at all the last decade or so and was glad I lived out of state so I didn’t have to directly deal with her after about a year, and she died within 5 or 6 years after that. We talked a bit after I moved out/out of state, but I kept that to a minimum because fuck dealing with the guilt and anxiety she gave me.

    As for how I felt, it was mainly relief mixed with grief, but the worst of the grief passed fairly quickly since I’d already grieved for the mother I lost, and only had to ‘grieve’ the passing of her mortal coil. I went into the wake/funeral process prepared to defend my choice in case anyone gave me shit about it, but I was very happy that the majority of her friends and my family told me I did the right thing.

    Now-a-days I’m mostly over it, and the grief I still have is mainly just from reliving childhood trauma as I force myself to be a better parent than I ever had. I don’t believe in an afterlife, but I am glad she’s no longer suffering/making those around her miserable.









  • The guy might have been a huge POS, he was not personally responsible for a broken and violent system that Americans have created for themselves.

    No one snowflake feels responsible for the avalanche.

    That CEO guy was just one of millions who WANT the system to be unfair. What is this shooter gonna do, kill every capitalist in the US?

    Of course not, a single person could never do that. But the millions (probably closer to tens or hundreds of thousands) of people who want the system to be like this are outnumbered by the people who have to suffer in it, so they’ll just encourage more acts like this by pushing people to extremes.





  • Yeah, it definitely helps to plan things out ahead of time, but I’ve had decent luck with refactoring a code block into a function to reuse code or cleanup sections. But I definitely try to make it into a function first when I can since it’s less work than going back and fixing stuff, but sometimes a simple code block blows up or you need to reuse it later.


  • You’re welcome! Coding has been my passion since I was in high school, and I understand how hard it can be to wrap your head around the concepts, even with formal schooling on the topic. To the point that I’ve learned so much more on my own than I did in school just because my passion allowed me to internalize the knowledge instead of just learning it.

    Best of luck on your adventure!


  • Why would the government spend resources on spying on feminist groups and/or black people social clubs? They pose literally zero danger to the interests of the ruling class?

    Respectfully, that take is naive as fuck. Considering the political climate then (and even now), it’s not hard to see how groups of citizens banding together for collective actions can easily disrupt the gravy train of the money class. Look at how quickly shit gets done in places like France when they have a general strike.

    A mass of citizens banding together will ALWAYS be a threat to the ruling class. Because the ruling class only rules as long as the population is willing to let them rule, because their rule requires the citizenry to enforce and uphold the system.


  • Realistically, you should still find a project that you want to do and use that as the basis of your learning, as that will influence your language of choice,. I’d start with either python or powershell stuff to get going, as both are general purpose, multiplatform languages that can do a lot and are moderately forgiving with syntax and stuff.

    Past that, find a project that interests you, break down what needs done, and learn those steps individually. It’s not as cohesive as a hand holding hello world style tutorial, but I found I learned so much better if I had a need for the knowledge instead of just learning for it’s own sake.

    In my case, I picked powershell as I’m a windows admin. Since I’m a data hoarder as well, I chose a video conversion pipeline to convert all of my movies into a consistent file format. Part of the requirements are to find all files with an extension that isn’t my standard (concepts: file listing, filtering, working with objects) and then execute an external program to convert the files (concepts: command line execution, state management, error handling, looping), validate the conversion completed successfully (concepts: reading file content, filtering/regex), moving the files to a new location or replacing the file with the new one and backing up the original (concepts: file management), and log file retention and cleanup. As I developed my script, I also began learning to properly “function-ize” my code to make things more readable/usable, and eventually started moving functions into a module to better modularize my code.

    A decade later and I’m currently in the middle of a couple of projects using powershell to make and call API functions to automate business services at work.



  • This man has just started university now at this age because apparently he was born poor and in the first half of his life was focused on making money, but medicine is a dream of his.

    So the guy worked to get to a place where he could reasonably go back to school to do something he’s passionate about.

    Son has always been an introverted, shy, socially awkward kid with little friends, but now goes out often.

    Going to college will do that, what’s the issue? Is it impacting his grades?

    Honestly my wife & I are uncomfortable, and we can’t help but side eye the dude.

    Why are you uncomfortable? What about the guy is off-putting to you? And are you really untrustworthy of the guy, or uncomfortable about the new choices in behavior your kid is exhibiting now that he has autonomy?

    With how little information is provided, I can only fall back on my own experience as a kid with an over protective parent who had to be explicitly told to let me be an adult, and I get similar vibes. But that could just be my experience coloring your post.