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Cake day: June 18th, 2024

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  • I metaphorically devour the memory for power. I’m still alive and it’s highly likely that I’m the only person on the entire planet thinking about it. Obviously these memories are extremely powerful, but it’s not doing me any good if I just feel embarrassed again every time I think about them. Harness that crazy shame energy and try to put it to actual productive use somehow. Just knowing that I can be that embarrassed and be absolutely fine actually gives me more confidence. Simply wallowing in the embarrassment only takes confidence away.

    Edit: Sorry I didn’t see you described the whole situation, I was writing very generally. Overall, it still applies. Except that maybe the moment is also replaying in your gf’s head for her own embarrassment at unintentionally embarrassing you. It’s honestly probably worse for her, at least you’re safe in the knowledge that you were misrepresented due to shrinkage lol