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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • If all they ever told you was to relax your eyes then it’s not surprising they don’t work for you, that’s not very helpful! Feel free to skip the rest of this if you don’t want advice on how to get them to work.

    For me, the best way to get them to work is to cross my eyes and let my gaze drift out of focus. When I was a kid I read a tip in a book to press your nose up to the book, look at the picture, and keep them in that position as you pull away. That works well for me too if I’m having trouble doing it on my own.





  • Fundamentally, your question is “does it make me a bad person if I have done bad things?”, which is so complicated that people make entire philosophies and religions out of the answers to that, haha.

    My view: you can be a good person who has done bad things, if you change your behavior and try to make amends. That doesn’t mean everyone has to accept or forgive you, but it’s a necessary part of being a good person.



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    It’s really weird to act like Biden didn’t want the ban and was some hapless third party to all this when before they even had the vote he was saying he’d sign it.

    Bills don’t get an automatic veto override if enough people vote yes, and an override doesn’t make him sign it. He signed it because he wanted to, and in doing so he put the Democrat brand on it. He could have made them hold another vote to actually override his veto and make it clear that he didn’t want this, he could have spoken out against it in any way before the bill was passed and on his desk, but he didn’t, and now that it’s wildly unpopular for some reason the entire DNC is just:




  • Therapists love CBT because it is easy and works for most people, but there are absolutely people and situations where it doesn’t just not work but is actively harmful. Like when you’re in a toxic relationship, trying to reframe all the shit making you miserable isn’t going to help you the way that realizing your relationship is toxic and getting out of it will.

    And a good therapist will know that and not use it in inappropriate situations… but C’s get degrees, as they say, and when it’s just a high paying job rather than a calling a lot of people are fine writing off those it doesn’t work for as difficult or treatment resistant.

    I don’t want to throw the baby out with the bath water or anything, it’s useful in many situations. Therapists just need to be more open to trying other methods as well. The best therapy I ever had was literally just guided talking about what I’ve been through and how it made me feel, no judgement or work sheets (BLEGH). Sometimes that’s what people need.


  • Neuroscience answer: Dopamine is responsible for (among other things) motivation and the feeling of reward when you do something. People with ADHD have chronically low dopamine levels because they have more dopamine transporters than most people do in their brains, so their brains burn through it quickly.

    In practice, people who are unmedicated tend to do whatever they can to try and get a little more dopamine to get them through the day. It’s why smoking, risk taking, illicit drug use, gambling addiction, etc are also correlated with ADHD: all those things give you a dopamine boost.

    So when someone is sitting there scrolling through memes on the phone, they’re hunting for the dopamine. The dopamine is almost never at The Task. It’s incredibly frustrating to understand all that and still not really be able to do anything about it until it escalates into an emergency, at which point you don’t really need dopamine to deal with it anymore, now that you have adrenaline. But that’s obviously an unsustainable way to do things on a regular basis.


  • The 56-year-old was suspended by the club in 2021 for performing a fascist salute at the end of a match against Inter Milan.

    Bernabe was filmed making the salute and chanting “duce, duce”, which translates as “leader, leader” and is commonly associated with former fascist Italian leader Benito Mussolini.

    “I did it and I don’t regret it because I admire Mussolini, he did great things for Italy as Franco did for Spain,” Bernabe said in 2021.

    They fire him for showing his dick online and not for being openly fascist at one of the games they invited him to be at in an official capacity… oh, football culture.


  • Honestly “modern healthcare” was pushing it for a lot of them even when they were open, due to decades of cuts and lack of investment. The (now closed) hospital that was in the rural community I grew up in had a reputation for being a place you went if you had no other choice, or it was a very minor emergency even they couldn’t fuck up. My parents floored it to the nearest city (40 minute drive) every time my mom went into labor, despite the local hospital being maybe 15 minutes away max if you drove the speed limit.



  • You can go full passive humidification with terracotta, if that’s something you’re interested in. You just need a bowl, pan, dish, or other item that can hold water, and then place the terracotta on top of it. Cheapo terracotta pots work fine, they just have to be in contact with water but not fully submersed. The more surface area exposed to air, the more it will evaporate water into the air. You can put tap water in that all day long and while it might get mineral build up, it’s not going into the air.

    You can achieve the same thing with a very wet towel hung up to dry if you really need it; that’s what we’re doing right now, and it’s amazing how quickly it brings it the humidity back up.


  • Sound, definitely at times. More commonly when outside sounds (traffic, construction, etc) get incorporated into my dream. I feel like sometimes I experience knowledge of sound in my dreams (responding to things that would require hearing it in IRL, like speaking) but don’t actually remember hearing anything, because dream logic.

    Smell is more rare in my dreams, and I don’t think I’ve ever experienced any very lovely smells in my dreams. But I have smelled a horrible rotting smell in my dreams before.