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  • Young me would be proud how much i know about tech and what in capable of. Young me would not understand I’m not and internationally wanted slick underground hacker with a few million dollars stashed away. Young me would see my company and not understand why I am not a millionaire yet, he did not have a concept of things taking time. He would also ask howiI. Haven’t kicked the wife out after constant problems with sex for 10 years plus and taken all three kids. “You love her?! You weak piece of shit. The kids need a mother? Yeah maybe, but you haven’t gotten any for over a year for the fourth time in a decade dude, you are a looser.”



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    11 days ago

    I’m guessing you don’t have kids and have not yet thought extensively about retirement.

    Marriage is about responsibility sharing in a way that survives even the worst of breakups while keeping all parties responsible in a fair way.

    I’m also suggesting you entertain a thought experiment where you swap genders in the relationship and also assume you have at least one child you love dearly and taking care of it takes about 100 times more time and effort than you currently think.

    Now you might have an inkling why people get married.

    Full disclosure: not married but have most if not all the responsibilities in writing with the mother of my children so she does not end up in poverty if we ever split after raising our kids with so much of her life love and health.




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    21 days ago

    Golden rule for children near adult age: advise and inform not more. Her body her choice and all that, but especially her right to choose. So if you overstep she will just keep doing what she wants, but stop taking to you about it. Keep an eye open if she is happy and healthy and offer her advice whenever you can.

    It’s probably just experimenting at that age so chill and show her she can trust you.




  • Sounds a lot like you need to find your crowd. Socializing is not the issue, more like socializing with the right kind of people. The problem is finding out what and who you find engaging. I suffered somei of the same problems until I discovered hackerspaces. Have you considered trying out for a band or advertising about founding a new one?


  • The future of Foss is in corporate time donations for projects that are useful for them. Open software collaboration is one hell of an efficiency gain. Whenever me or my colleagues have dead time I ask them to work on improving open source projects. It’s just a few days every few months but it adds up. Also we like to fix bugs in Foss software that affects our customers as we usually fix and upstream them and can bill that to the customer. So the company gets played, the worker gets payed and open source gets funding. No more sole maintainers for life that don’t have money to heat their homes because nobody donates. :)